How To Support A Friend Or Loved One Through Grief And Loss

Godwin Morah
4 min readFeb 22, 2023
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Grief and loss are some of the most difficult experiences that one can face.

Personally, I have suffered great loss and it took me such a long time to grow through it.

When a friend or loved one is going through a period of mourning, it can be challenging to know how to offer the proper support.

Cause everyone experiences grief slightly differently, and there is no one-size-fits-all approach to helping someone through it. However, I will share some tips on how I have helped friends and loved ones grow through their loss and grief.

1. Offering Companionship.

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Personally, when I lost my dad, I couldn’t grieve and process my emotions, and I just wanted everyone to leave. I wanted space although I pushed lots of people away during those times.

But it helped me grow through my loss.

With that being said not everyone wants companionship at some stage in their grieving process. but others need all the support they can get.

Spending time with them, engaging in activities they enjoy, or just sitting with them in their grief can be a great way to show support.

2. Creating Memorials.

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Creating a memorial can also be a healing experience for your friend or loved one.

It honors the memory of the person who passed away and helps them in the healing process.

You can suggest creating a memorial, such as planting a tree, making a photo album or scrapbook, creating a piece of artwork, or my favorite, writing a goodbye message.

3. Sharing Your Own Experience.

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Sharing our own experiences of grief and loss can help them feel less alone and understood.

We can also provide them with the hope that healing is possible.

Loss has a way of making people want to isolate themselves from other people unless they can deeply relate with them.

So share your experience, sincerely but remember it’s not about you but helping your loved one heal.

4. Helping Them Maintain Their Routines

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It’s easy for friends and your loved one who is grieving to forget about themselves,

They can be so lost in their thoughts and pain. That they can forget about every other thing.

So support them by helping them maintain their routines and self-care practices.

Reminding them to eat, sleep, exercise, and practice self-care can help them maintain a sense of normalcy during a difficult time.

5. Seek Professional Help If Necessary.

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Grieving is a natural process, but it can also lead to depression, anxiety, and other mental health issues.

If you are concerned about your friend or loved one’s well-being, encourage them to seek professional help.

You can offer to help them find a therapist, support group, or other resources that can provide them with the help they need.

Final Thoughts

During the grieving process, your loved ones may experience a range of emotions.

We must validate their feelings, even if we don’t understand them, and avoid trying to minimize or fix their feelings. Instead, we can offer support and understanding.

Helping someone through grief is like being a lighthouse in the storm, guiding them toward safety and offering them hope.

It may not be an easy journey, but you can make a world of difference with patience, empathy, and practical help.

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Godwin Morah

I’m Godwin Morah A Writer. I Simply Want To Help People Find Their Spark & Direction Towards A Meaningful Life.